From Wikipedia, the new definition of Cougar
Cougar refers to an older woman, usually in her 30s-40s but usually on the younger end of this spectrum who sexually pursue younger men in their 20s or early 30s. In many cases, the alternative scenario is true where these women are pursued by younger men who have an affinity for the beauty, maturity & intellect of women in this age range. Term used by TV series 30 Rock (episode "Cougars"), How I Met Your Mother , Two and a Half Men, (episode "Waiting for the Right Snapper”), Supernatural, (episode "Red Sky at Morning"), the NBC reality TV show Age Of Love, CBC's, iPod, One Tree Hill, and Law and Order, CI (episode "Betrayed").

Okay…. I’m not sure I’m completely comfortable with being called a ‘Cougar’, since I don’t chase younger men, although I do think about it! Having said that, I did design a used clothing store for more mature women…who like to dress young. (Rockin’ Robin’s: Retro and Resale, Niwot). I got tired of going into places like ‘Buffalo Exchange’ and having the college aged girls who work there, give me a look like, ‘What are you doing here? Why can’t you dress your age?”

Girls. Ladies. I’m here to tell you…if you don’t want to look your age…then don’t dress it. I’m 52 and no one ever believes me when I tell that!

Now dressing younger does bring up some issues for women concerning our non-twenty something bodies, mainly the belly (sometime referred to as the muffin top), the lower outer thigh (also known as the saddle-bag), and the under upper arm (also known as the reason we drink). I have to address this with women everyday, and my general philosophy is this:
“Embrace it!” Embrace that belly…you earned it! And the truth is, after a certain age, no matter how much you weigh, or how many sit-ups you do, the law of gravity and the loss of collagen are at work and the belly is just going to be there. So wear the low cut jeans, the short sexy tops and let it hang out a little. If you decide it’s sexy, it is. The one tip I can offer is when choosing a hip hugger pant, don’t go too tight as to over emphasize a muffin top all the way around your body.

Your thighs? Just stay away from clingy bias cut long skirts and dresses that grab them and emphasize. The upper arms? This is one of those areas that can be prevented with early exercise, because once they start to get loose, it’s hard one to correct. You can wear sleeves to hide, but I always ask women…”are you never going to wear a sundress or tank top for the rest of your life?” The only person who is judging your arms is you…. so love them, too and enjoy the summer with sexy tops and dresses!

Rockin’ Robin is the owner of Rockin’ Robin’s: Retro and Resale in Niwot, CO. www.rockinrobins.net. She is also a rock singer, actress and one sexy older woman!